The Importance of Forgiveness
How it Can Help Heal and Change Your Life!
We all have been hurt and may have people in our lives who have harmed us or treated us unfairly. How we respond to those negative events and experiences and how long we nurture or harbor hurt and anger in our hearts can affect everything in our lives, including our health, relationships and abundance.
In my e-book, “25 Ways to Attract More Love Into Your Life,” one of the ways (number 6) is to cultivate forgiveness for others. Forgiveness is so important not just for attracting more love into your life, but for paving the path for much more health, joy and abundance to easily flow into your life.
When you are holding anger and hostility in your heart, you are blocking so much good that awaits you in your vibrational vortex. All the good you desire in your life cannot manifest until you are willing to release whatever negative feelings you are holding on to and forgive everyone you need to forgive. The list may even be a long one. However short or long it is, each person needs to be forgiven and what they did needs to be set free from your thoughts.
When you are holding anger and hostility in your heart, you are blocking so much good that awaits you in your vibrational vortex. All the good you desire in your life cannot manifest until you are willing to release whatever negative feelings you are holding on to and forgive everyone you need to forgive.
Your path ahead will blossom with so much more love, health, joy and abundance when you open your heart and release anger and let forgiveness flow in. Photo by Steve Knight from www.freeimages.com.
Many think that forgiving others is for the other person. And in a sense it certainly is. But much more importantly, the forgiveness is really for you. It is a way to release many negative thoughts and feelings that may be holding you hostage to the past or to unpleasant experiences. When we are angry at someone who has hurt us, we can harbor grudges and resentments that pollute our thoughts and those feelings can even affect our beliefs and how we interact with others going forward.
How can you become a welcoming place for love when your heart is holding onto the past and is filled with anger and maybe even vengeful feelings? I met a young and very hyper-energetic woman recently who is a trainer at a work-out facility. Surprisingly, she told me she was a two-time cancer survivor. She looked so strong, vibrant and physically fit. Her young, handsome son was there in the facility helping her clean up. She pointed at him and shared that she had to make it for him.
Many think that forgiving others is for the other person. And in a sense it certainly is. But much more importantly, the forgiveness is really for you.
I met a young, hyper-energetic woman who, surprisingly, told me she was a two-time cancer survivor. She looked so strong, vibrant and physically fit. She told me there was someone in her life she definitely needed to forgive. Photo by Ariel da Silva Parreira from www.freeimages.com.
I told her about my background as a minister, counselor and healer and said I wanted to share something very important that I often share with those who have cancer or have survived cancer. I told her to check and see if there was anyone in her life, living or dead, that she needed to forgive.
I asked her to check if she was holding on to any feelings of anger or resentment for anyone. She told me, “Oh, that’s a tough one.” And then she revealed there was a relative close to her who pushed all her buttons and was very ungrateful for many positive things she had done for this woman.
She asked me if she really had to forgive this person even if this person was being so mean to her. I told her, “Absolutely! You can forgive the person without forgiving the behavior.” She thanked me for this insight. I know if she is able to clear these feelings of anger and disappointment, her health will have a much better chance of continuing to thrive and of beating the negative odds her doctors had shared with her.
It is always easier to be able to tell someone else to forgive someone in their lives. But when we think of the person who caused us so much heartache and pain, it is so much harder to begin to “walk our own talk.”
My husband, Sharbel, who is a very kind, gentle, caring and compassionate man, and perhaps one of the purest souls I have ever met, always helps counsel and encourage me towards the path of love and forgiveness, especially when I am closing my heart and being judgmental about someone.